I’ve never talked to a counselor/therapist. I’m used to handling things on my own. I guess I have the feeling that people who go to therapy are weak. Am I weak if I seek therapy?
Not at all. People who ask for help know when they need it and have the courage to reach out. Everyone needs help now and then. In our work together, I’ll help you explore and identify your strengths and how to implement them to reduce the influence of the problems you are facing.
How do I know when/if my marriage is too far gone? I’m afraid that we may be beyond help.
Just the fact that you are asking the question shows signs (maybe small, but none-the-less a sign) that there is a part of you that wants to save your marriage. Therapy is not a magic pill, but talking to someone and learning some better skills may be just the thing that you need to get unstuck or turn things around for your relationship.
What’s the difference between Couple’s Counseling and Discernment Counseling?
This is a great question. In couple’s counseling we will dive into the issues and struggles that have become problematic for the relationship with the goal of moving things forward. We will use various interventions and skills/tools to make a change. In Discernment Counseling the goal is clarity and certainty of where the relationship is headed. If one spouse may be considering divorce but isn’t sure that is the way to go, Discernment Counseling is what you need. See the Discernment page for more info.
What’s the difference between talking to you or my best friend or family?
The difference is between someone who can do something, and someone who has the training and experience to do that same thing professionally. A mental health professional can help you approach your situation in a new way– teach you new skills, gain different perspectives, listen to you without judgment or expectations, and help you listen to yourself. Furthermore, counseling is completely confidential. You won’t have to worry about others “knowing my business.” Lastly, if your situation provokes a great deal of negative emotion, and you’ve been confiding in a friend or family member, there is the risk that once you are feeling better you could start avoiding that person so you aren’t reminded of this difficult time in your life.
Why shouldn’t I just take medication?
Medication can be effective but it alone cannot solve all issues. Sometimes medication is needed in conjunction with counseling. Our work together is designed to explore and unpack the problems you are experiencing and expand on your strengths that can help you accomplish your personal goals.
How does it work? What do I have to do in sessions?
Because each person has different issues and goals for counseling, it will be different depending on the individual. I tailor my therapeutic approach to your specific needs.
How long will it take?
Unfortunately, this is not possible to say in a general FAQs page. Everyone’s circumstances are unique to them and the length of time counseling can take to allow you to accomplish your goals depends on your desire for personal development, your commitment, and the factors that are driving you to seek counseling in the first place.
I want to get the most out of therapy. What can I do to help?
I am so glad you are dedicated to getting the most out of your sessions. Your active participation and dedication will be crucial to your success.